GIRL ON GIRL HATE!!!

GIRL ON GIRL HATE

I'm sick and tired of this issue about girl on girl hate.
What do we gain by belittling someone of the same gender?
Do you want to know what we gain? I'll inform you. Nothing. Absolutely nothing!!
You're not impressing anyone by going to a party instead of reading a book.
You're not better than her because you have a bigger social circle
STOP IT!!! IT'S NOT WORTH IT
"Girls" compete with each other. "Women" empower each other.
Girl on girl hate is a huge issue in schools, at workplaces, in shops/malls, and even online and this doesn't make any sense at all because I feel that, as women, we should know how amazing other women can be.
You hate a girl just because you think she's prettier than you are?
Pretty? Society has set up some beauty standard levels, but that doesn't mean you should undermine yourself thinking you don't qualify for those standards. 
Girl, you're pretty, gorgeous, beautiful, etc. in your own way.
As girls, females, ladies, women and mothers, we need each other's advice not taunts, support and not criticism, motivation and not incitement, appreciation and not disparagement, acceptance and not rejection.
Spot a girl looking fabulous? Wearing a nice outfit? Achieving something? Doing something positive?
Walk up to her and congratulate her, compliment her instead of making her feel like she's in a competition with someone else.
It'd do both of you more good than harm.
Girls who can appreciate the "beauty" of other girls without hating on them stay winning!
S/O to all the beautiful women who don't need to degrade other women to validate themselves. Stay classy.
It's easy for us to bring out the worst in each other but we can change that for the better, together!

INTERNATIONAL WOMEN'S DAY

All over the world, people are celebrating the International Women's Day. (i.e. today is a global day celebrating the social, economic, cultural and political achievements of women and it also marks a "call to action for equality")  
Research has it that, it'll take approximately 80 years before women can achieve gender parity in the workforce, and this, in general, closes the 60% gender gap  for economic participation. Time passes slowly when change is overdue. 
The potential of women has been looked down upon, sadly!
Why do people think women are not capable enough to achieve as much as men can achieve?
Why is there a doubt regarding what women can do and achieve when given the chance and the power?
There are about 60 million girls who are not in school. We need to reduce this number to ZERO. 
The number of females with a wider range of opportunities, is unreasonably low, as compared to the male population. 
THE TIME FOR GENDER PARITY IS NOW!!!

BYE 2015, WELCOME 2016!!!

As this year ends and gives way to a new year, there may be a few questions you'd like to ask yourself:
1. Did I set any goals for 2015?
2. Have I achieved any of those goals? (If yes, kudos! If no, you might want to ask yourself why)
3. Have I achieved something that I can be proud of? 
4. Have I been good? How can I become better?
5. Was I a spendthrift or can I be proud of how well I managed my expenses?
6. How did I spend my free time? 
7. How well did I take care of my body, mind and soul?
8. What projects have I completed? Which have I procrastinated? 
9. Did I make good use of my time? How well can I re-structure it?
10. Have I allowed fear of failure to hold me back in any way? 
11. Have I been unfair to anyone? Have I wronged anyone?
12. Do I need to forgive anyone? Do I need to let go? 
13. Which old habits do I need to stop?
14. Which new habits do I need to cultivate?
15. What lessons have I learned? 
16. Have I been kind to myself and to others?
17. Have I been open-minded?
18. Did I take any risks in the right direction?
19. Did I make anyone happy? Did I help people in need? Was I a shield to others who needed it? Did I "fight" for others? Did I fight for what is right?
20. Did I make someone smile? Did I make someone happy? Did I make my parents proud of me?


We need to learn to let go off what is unimportant.
We need to learn to make other people happy. 
We need to be more cautious in the upcoming year and set goals in order to achieve them, not just because everyone's doing that. 
Make time for everyone. Strike a balance in whatever you do. Do you, boo! 
Don't pressurize yourself to do something just because everyone else is.
BE DIFFERENT. BE UNIQUE.
Make someone smile. Be the reason for someone's smile.
LOVE GENUINELY. 
Read something new everyday. Educate yourself everyday.
If you don't enjoy what you already do as a hobby, find new hobbies. Try new stuff. New, not bad! Explore. Have fun. Fall in love. Take calculated risks. Live. Love. Laugh. Dream. Believe. Achieve
Have a grudge with someone? Say sorry first even if you're not the one at fault.
Learn to accept your mistakes. Learn to say sorry. It wouldn't hurt your "ego" to say sorry first. This doesn't mean you should say sorry first just for the cheek of it. No! When you apologize to someone, make sure you mean it. Make sure it's a sincere apology.
(Saying sorry to someone also means, 'hey, I realize my mistake and I'm genuinely sorry about that. I'll try not to repeat the same mistake again).
Feel lonely? Talk to someone. Take a walk. Read a book. Listen to music, sing, dance, reminisce, visit someone, etc. (NB: Don't just visit or talk to someone just because you're bored).
Last but not least, set goals for 2016 and make sure you accomplish them.
LOVE YOURSELF. BE YOURSELF. LISTEN TO YOUR INTUITIONS. BE YOU.
Wish you a very happy new year and a prosperous, successful 2016.

RACISM

Who gave us the right to judge each other according to one's skin colour, one's race, one's ethnicity, one's nationality, etc.?
Does success revolve around one's skin colour or one's race?
I am appalled by the sickening dirge that racist comments violate my ears with.
It is just sad to hear a fellow human pass a rude comment about another just because the latter is "dark-skinned?"
People say we live in an "advanced world", but ironically, some people are not matured enough to notice it. They still live in the nineteenth century, or probably, in the fifteenth century, which is quite sad.
We call ourselves educated, yet we pass rude comments about dark-skinned people.
We call ourselves educated, yet we still pass by dark-skinned people and mutter something mean under our breaths and laugh. 
Who made us judge over them? Ourselves? Our mentality? Our family? Our society? 
WE'RE ALL HUMANS!!! We might be from different backgrounds, but we're all humans.
Always be nice to people, you never know when you might need someone's help.
Is it their fault that they were born or created this way,i.e. dark-skinned?
Before you judge, why not confront The Maker of the Universe?
They might  not have an answer as to why they're dark-skinned but HE has answers to everything. So why not ask HIM instead of wasting your time asking someone, "yo! why are you so dark? did you pass through the flames of hell?" 
Oh! hold on! Just because you don't need light effects when taking a "selfie?"
Just because you don't need extra lighting in a dark room to be visible? That makes you superior? Please!!
You're always rude to dark-skinned people but the moment they strike back, you call them "ghetto?" 
Come to think of it, the person you just made fun of, could be the owner of the firm/company you're seeking a job from. He/She might be the one who's supposed to conduct an interview with you, next week.
Sometimes, I feel as if people who are racist are just insecure about themselves and hence make other people feel the same way.
making someone feel inferior does not make you superior to them in anyway.
Racism is just unnecessary, useless and above all, an absolute waste of time and energy.
Yes, their melanin is on "fleek" and that shouldn't bother you at all.
SAY NO TO RACISM AND LET EQUALITY RULE!!!

FAILURE...

Mistakes are proof that you're trying.Life is tough, but so are you.
Losing is a part of life, just as winning is.
Sometimes you have to lose in order to win.
Sometimes you have to fail, in order to pave your way to success.
When you fail once, try again. Maybe you're just not doing something right.
No matter how many times you fail, always try again.
Yes! You may have tried your best, but maybe your best wasn't strong enough to make you win.
Step up your game and try as many times as you can.
You have one life; set bigger goals and work towards achieving it.
Unleash the inner hustle and prove yourself.
Failure always comes as a lesson to those who really want to be successful.When you fall down, be sure to rise again.
Yes, people will see how much off a failure you are, but they'll fail to see your rise after the fall.
Believe in yourself when no one does. Never give up!!!
Whenever you think about giving up, because you've failed a number of times, think about the reason you held on for so long.
Failure is a necessary stepping stone to building our dreams.
Anyone who has achieved anything great, anyone who has 'changed the world' has, at some point, made a choice to embrace failure and work harder, instead of giving up.

CHANGE...

You've got the words to change the world but you're biting your tongue.
You've kept mum, afraid you'll say something wrong.
If no one ever hears what you've got in mind, how will anyone be able to act on it?
If you never put your thoughts into words and voice out your opinions, nothing will happen.There'll be no change.
Never ever make fear a part of your life. Fear only ruins your inner self and shatters your mindset.
To change this world, you need to change your mentality first.
Opportunities do come, but once. JUST ONCE!!!
We need to mirror the struggles of today's world.
Someone has to take up this initiative of change, if not everyone.
Someone might ask, ''how can one person change the world?''
The answer is simple...
Smile at someone, gift someone, offer a lift to someone, say something positive to someone, reach out to the needy, encourage someone, be nice to people especially to kids, sponsor a child, plant a tree, help rebuild a home, visit a prisoner/ sick person, be a mentor, teach, serve, donate, etc.
The opportunities are endless. And they're all right there, in our minds.
Just think about which part of the world is waiting for you to make a difference toward it!
Change your thoughts from ''it's too late'' to '' there's still hope.''
With one kind gesture, you can change a life. One person at a time, you can change the world. One day at a time, you can change everything.
Therefore, be the CHANGE you want to see in the world.

WHY WOMEN HATE EACH OTHER!

When I hear females saying things along the lines of “I’m not friends with too many women because they’re too much drama,” I can’t help but cringe. After years of experiencing all kinds of female friendships both good and bad, I’ve asked myself the same question over and over again. Why do women hate each other?

The truth is, most females, no matter how old they are will tell you that they’ve survived at least one type of mean girl in their past. Whether it was a situation that dealt with putting someone down, being dismissed, ignored or even socially tormented, they all seem to boil down to one thing- hatred. I just don’t understand it.

For some people they say that it has gotten worse in the past few years considering the increase in cyber bullying, but this issue has been around for ages. In one of my favorite books, A Tree Grows in Brooklyn, the main character Francie describes how she feels after a group of middle aged women torment a young 17 year old girl because she had a baby yet she wasn’t married. The young girl decided to take an Autumn stroll down the street in Brooklyn with her baby and that same group of women threw pebbles at her. And no- this book does not take place during the Salem Witch Trials. It actually takes place in 1912. Although times are slightly different now, that same judgment and scrutiny would still be passed today- I’m sure of it.

Look at how powerfully Francie describes her feelings towards females: “Most women had one thing in common: they had great pain when they gave birth to their children. This should make a bond that held them together, it should make them love and protect each other against the man-world. But it was not so. It seemed like their great birth pains shrank their hearts and their souls. They stuck together for only one thing- to trample on some other woman…whether it was by throwing stones or mean gossip. It was the only kind of loyalty they seemed to have. As long as I live, I will never have a woman for a friend. I will never trust any woman again, except maybe mama.”

If this doesn’t break your heart, I have no words for you. Why do some of us seemingly hate our own 

gender? As women we should be allies to each other, not be taught to hate and compete with each other. Why should this be the case?

There’s just a plethora of confusion that makes absolutely no sense. Honestly, I think the hatred for other women comes from within. Once a woman hates herself, it’s easy to get her to hate another woman. I say this because if a woman who hates herself sees a woman who seemingly doesn’t hate herself, it’s easy to project the internalized negativity onto her. Think about it. How many times have you heard, “Who does she think she is?” “She’s not all that anyway” “Why is she so full of herself?” This is true for all humans, not just women. It is human nature.

It pains me to think that we have this mentality. Society has us pitted against each other and seems to want to keep us from being whole and healthy as individuals and as a group. We should be and need to be celebrated by each other so that we can stand united and fight against injustice toward our gender. Women should empower each other instead of being so hateful towards each other.

                                      Credit: Anita Chandra